I've seen a lot of strange, funny and moving things since I started doing private intimate photoshoots about fifteen years ago. One of the oddest things is related to bachelorette parties.
Several years ago, I documented a rather naughty bachelorette party for a group of ladies who already knew me. It was a lot of fun and I learned enough from the experience that I decided to offer that service to others.
I had no idea that this would lead to a ten year string of the strangest inquiries you can imagine. About once every month or so, I get an email from a woman asking if I will photograph her and a handful of her best girlfriends getting crazy in a hotel or private home somewhere.
Side note: Once in a while, they ask if I will follow them on a pub crawl, but that sounds like a photographer's nightmare so I always decline. Professional cameras are water resistant but not vomit proof and I have a low tolerance for drunks. I tell them to use their own smart phones.
The exchange of emails usually follows a predictable path. Once the woman finds out that I photograph bachelorette parties, she starts describing her imagined scenario. There are almost always five women involved and the one emailing me has agreed to find a willing photographer. She usually says that her budget is almost unlimited. It starts out simple and with each email exchange it gets more complex and more sexual. Instead of asking about how the photos will be delivered, she wants to know what I will "make" them do in front of the camera. Sometimes she wants to know if I'm available for sexual service (I'm not) or if I can provide a man to have sex with them or dominate them. She always keeps asking for more details and adding new erotic twists.
I've learned to spot the red flags by the second or third email exchange and sometimes I end it there, but I often play along to see if any new ideas come up. Sometimes I can't spot the fake for a long time and end up wasting too much time.
What I've decided is that the Bachelorette Party Photoshoot is a legitimate fetish. There are definitely women who find that talking about it is a real turn on. I think it's a branch of female submissiveness. They feel that during a photoshoot, they can engage in naughty acts that they would not normally allow themselves to do.
I finally removed bachelorette parties from the menu of services I provide, but for some reason, the internet keeps sending me these horny women. Maybe I missed a link somewhere. It's sad that 99% of the inquiries are just fantasy material, as shooting bachelorette parties is actually a lot of fun and the ladies get some great pix with their girlfriends. I'm still open to legitimate inquiries,
If there are any kinky novelists out there, you might want to see if you can turn out an erotic E-book on the topic. I bet it would sell pretty well.
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